Quote: is she comfortable with you seeing her undressed to the degree (or close) that you did in the past?
Well, as I have posted in the past, my W has serious body issues and self esteem issues associated with her not liking how her body looks. SO, it's never really been something she's comfortable with and she often asks for privacy but the interesting thing is that I have noticed her changing in my proximity, not closing the door so fast, etc, lately. Now, when she sees me looking, or if she THINKS I am/was, she gives me a little "hey" but doesn't really rush to cover up as fast as before. I guess I didn't really notice that.
Quote: How about seeing YOU step out of the shower? Does she remark on how you smell - cologne, soap, anything?
Well, she doesn't seem to have any problem at all looking at ME getting out of the shower. I even call her on it playfully all the time. No, she never really comments on how I smell, but she does compliment me more on how I look.
Quote: I think RB has a point too - you aren't her best friend, you're her husband, and being a little playful/teasing can break the ice. People are so tense in these situations that you can both REALLY want to and still not - it's tough.
You guys are REALLY helping me out with this. I am a little nervous that the ladies have not backed you up, but what you are saying really does ring true. As far as teasing and being playful, there has been much more of that lately both from me (on purpose) AND from her. I guess through all this today, I realize that things are actually more different than I thought. Maybe I AM doing some of the right things and just need to keep it up.
Quote: In a more mild situation in the past, following a fight, how did you make up?
I would say, quite honestly, we never really "make up" after a fight. We both just go to our corners and eventually just "get over it". I suppose this is NOT very good in the grand scheme of things and has probably led to some resentment since that would mean a lot of things went unresolved in our R. Hmmmm, more food for thought.
