I shared this on the First "She hasn't left" board (I think) but in addition to visiting ivillage before, I also had ongoing online correspondence with a woman who was in her MLC and had had an EA and a PA. She was struggling with trying to get back to doing "the right thing." That dialogue helped me to better see things from a woman's perspective. To feel some of what my wife might have been feeling as she slipped into doing something that caused her and her family great pain. On the ivillage board now, I see women who represent my wife at the various stages she has gone through (depending on which board you visit). Some are finding their "happiness" in OM's arms and wish they could end their marriage. Others are content to continue the affair even if they stay married. Some want out and will stay married because of the kids BUT do not desire to reconcile. Many are just completely emotionally torn to pieces
I was comforted and encouraged by many of these posters when I shared my heartfelt desire to be a better friend and husband to Mrs. C2H with the goal of bringing her out of her EA/PA. To read about their torment helped me to have compassion for my own hurting wife.
As you now know, our relationship is now greatly improved. We are able to talk through our issues, and while we sometimes get pretty heated about some things, we get over them quickly and work on whatever the real issue was that caused the problem. I hope the sight provides some insight to you if you visit there. C2H
Committed2Him- "C2H" All Things (Back from Spain!)...18
