MF- from all the posts we've shared these many months, that sounds like a pretty good summary. Posting here so others can have one perspective and critique it, agree or add to it.
We have witnessed w moving closer to you but also see her not distancing herself from OM. After thinking about yesterday's advice to you, I thought more about trying to avoid actions that would force her to seemingly move towards you. That tactic really doesn't sound very appealing at all but neither does leaving her free and unaccountable to use OM for whatever need he is meeting.
You have made a lot of progress but it just feels like something else needs to be added to the mix. 17baker writes about being mysterious, a technique we have seen written about before elsewhere. Maybe that is what is needed now. Does that mean date? I don't think so but being unavailble with out telling w everything your doing seems like something you might want to consider trying. Don't know, hopefully you will get some good advice here.
Also, I posted on the ivillage boards before and found many of the posters very receptive. It gave me a whole new perspective on many things. Under the "relationship boards" there is a sub topic of "infidelity" including, "ending my affair." Many many of those posters (from what I recall before) were emotionally torn to pieces as they struggled with their situations. I was well received because I shared my heartfelt desire to understand the issues that caused my wife to fall into a EA and then PA. I shared that I wanted to change me and help her return to me by being the kind of husband a wife would value and love. Blessings to you my friend. Here's the link: http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/boards/
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