I've promoted myself. I think alottolearn has graduated to learning2. As in learning too and as in learning to.
Here's a few things I've been learning to lately:
learning to enrich my life all by itself without reference to my H.
closely related, learning to be cognizant of the many more important things to think about than OR.
learning to accept that while I'm not going to have a marriage that is everything I'd have liked it to be, there are still many aspects to be thankful for.
learning to appreciate that my H and I have very different but equally valid views on ourselves each other and OR (not to mention values, goals, needs, etc.)
learn to be realistic about what he is likely to do and what I'm likely to do.
learning to focus on doing what I do better (find solutions).
learning to handle the difficult days and to have confident that time heals (even if some of us are slow healers).
learning to treasure the peaceful days...Yes, now there are whole days that are peaceful and happy.
learning to trust myself that whatever the future holds I can handle it (with a little help from my friends).
