Thought I'd bring up our story and give the update. There have been tough times but I've gotten through them better than ever. Frankly over the past year, even though I believe he didn't mean to, my H has broken my heart over and over and still doesn't understand how he was hurtful. The affair is a backdrop issue but the challenges have been very much in the present.

HOWEVER, I have come a long, long way in being centered in myself and handling disappointments with grace. It just may be that we are turning another corner and I do need to give credit where credit is due.

This year for our anniversary my H bought himself a wedding ring. He found his original ring uncomfortable and never wore it and he does fiddle with this one an awful lot but most of the time it's on his finger. Not sure if he'll ever keep it on long enough to make an indentation but he said some very sweet things about feeling good wearing it. I'm braced for him to end up taking it off but who knows maybe he'll keep it on.