I have not posted to you but this caught my attention.
Quote: I am also the type to keep things sacred in a relationship (marriage or course included). I do want this to work out and it has improved, but since this affair this certificate is not sacred to me anymore. Does it make sense or is it wrong for me to want to go through with the paperwork and start over with her in a new me and her only relationship? She thinks I don't love her anymore for me suggesting that and I know it sounds weird. I would just rather start over and ask her to marry me again when things improve individually and as a couple, than to undo the divorce when shes not individually strong, gives up and we go through the pain of filing again. I definitely need some advice about this relationship and this divorce deadline.
It is about forgiveness as God forgives us plus the fact that He forgives us and accepts us back before we are all changed. I feel that it is important to forgive your W, and accept her back home and then work on the relationship with God as the center.
That "closure" thing I never understand. Because she "broke her vow" with infidelity does not void the marriage or that certificate. There are other areas of the marriage promise that get stepped on and "repaired" but why is this area so deadly. It is extremely important, don't take me wrong, it is just you don't throw the whole marriage away because of one broken part. Go to the Maker of the marriage institution for the repairs. But repairing it under different roofs is NOT the way to go.
