Kent - still haven't done OR talk. But I typed and printed out an outline for the "session". I'm using allotolearn's basic outline:
#1 We can make it better it both of us choose to. (key- is both)
#2 How we can do this -be honest and upfront -read 5 Languages of Love - find/discuss our own language -realize sugarcoating life, avoiding truths does not lead to intimacy - only away -it's all about the approach to how we discuss. We've both learned enough and are ready for this step.
#3 I won't tolerate in limbo anymore. (But I can't make it sound like a threat - so will approach that as delicately as possible).
Do you think that is too much Kent?
*** Something is still amiss big time - he is hiding something. -A fear? -An OW? (I doubt it but would not shock me) -His plan of riding out life w/me until the kids are on their own? -Is he simply depressed? I don't know.
After almost 5 months of DBing I've learned a lot but still overall lack knowledge of his intentions. It's not about being patient anymore - it's about refusing to avoid confrontation like he does. Someone made me realize this yesterday.
THanks Kent and allotolearn for letting me crash your post.
