A brainstorming idea: How about if you start a topic in this section that is titled something like "positive things ILM's H has said" to help you remember them? Don't write anything negative in that topic, not even any figuring things out, just the good stuff. I'll sign up to be a cheerleader
That disappearing thing must be mighty tough. What would happen if you let him know that you will need to take a step away from him and love him from afar if he can't follow through on plans? That you won't be able to provide emotional support when he needs to talk at least for a set time if he is unable to honor plans you make. Of course this needs to be said very calmly or it might be better to write it in a letter? You may have already tried this kind of thing. You've sure been at this a long time. Don't give up trying new ideas, one probably will dislodge your impasse. ALTL
[This message has been edited by alottolearn (edited 04-02-2001).]
