Just reviewed TomM's Understanding the process post under staying solution focused. I realize that with out having any idea what I was doing, it was exactly the way that my H started reattaching to me and detaching from the OW while continuing in the affair. It is very fortunate that I didn't know what was going on because at that time due to valid circumstances, 60%explained above, I would have left him.
I was very fortunate that the process was broken into two segments for me. I didn't have to live with an ongoing affair, nor did we intentionally separate, we just happened to be between two far off cities when the proverbial s*!# hit the fan. The soul searching and finding the path has been more painful but less difficult with my eyes opened.
ALTL
[This message has been edited by alottolearn (edited 04-02-2001).]
