RE chrom Under no circumstances will her mother have any say on what happens in our family. She can choose to be a part of it, but family decisions stay within the family...... and agreed to have a third even though I had my doubts because I thought it would make her happy. And truthfully, it has made her happy.
It sounds like your W's mental picture of what a new marriage family include too many images of her childhood and is not breaking away from some of her childhood pictures she constructed in her mind while she was the only one/single. They need to be updated and have input from two people, you and her, not her and her old influences. It is difficult for some people to do.
I know I had some struggles learning to do our own things and not let some of those old parental expectations/family norms I believed in for so many years, go by the wayside, and develop new behaviors and standards BB and I agreed on and were able to implemented.
