Hi Chrome,
Glad to see you back and with Glob a little more under control. You had us pretty worried there I still think you should go with GEL's suggestion and go see a Dr ASAP you don't want old Glob getting the upper hand on you again.

It's good that you and W have been exchanging e-mails - take her words that she is a big girl and can handle it seriously she really can and it is better to spit it right out then let stuff fester inside you as you have been discovering.

I think it is the case that you and she handle things differently. It seems to me that she needs to zone out a bit when she is stressed whereas you need to connect and get reassurance from someone. So when stress hits both of you (like having kids together) it is hard for those two styles to mesh. You find her style adds to your stress by withholding what you need, and she finds your style does the same for her by noisily interfering with her need to calm herself.

Just thought I would throw that thought in, make of it what you will.

Those cyber-vibes do work you know, why you had me crying if you remember on your first or second post to me so it's no wonder all the good vibes everyone here has been sending you have had a positive effect on you.

take care and don't let the past haunt you too much.

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong