Chrom, from reading how your W communicates with you and maybe how you communicate with your W, I sensed a similarity to these web pages I read.

It is not a book but a couple of articles worth reading IMO.

Socratic method in family communication

Socratic method and indirect communication

Burgbud posted those page links on Heatherg's thread "Am I Creating a SSM Part IV "

I can see a communication pattern in my R with BB, where something factual and supposedly neutral has an accusatory tone added onto some words.

I did not read more than the articles, so am not vouching or promoting anything, but it is worth reading. Make up your own opinion, but look when you have the time.

When I am with her, my fire of hesitation burns bright. The fear of rejection due to years of rejection makes me hesitate, or not act congruently with my feelings, and that adds fuel to the fire. I must climb this mountain.
Are We Twins? I am pulling for you Chrom.

Lou