I can remember those days…. They seem to have gone by so fast. At the time life was just as you describe, harried, hectic, tiring, just trying to hang on to this side of chaos…. but somehow you get through… life is literally one day at a time. Then one day my neighbor, an older retired husband told me that I was having the best days of my life.
Looking back, in spite of all the fighting and arguing, what I remember most are the kids when they were little. My neighbor had it right. I tried to make the most of it then and have good memories and few regrets, but I just wish I could have focused less on trying to stay out of the chaos zone, worrying less about the future and just staying in the moment and enjoying the babies. So believe it or not, you are in the best days or your life too. Everything else will take care of itself, but only when the time is right. This is the time to enjoy (I know that seems hard to understand in a SSM), sit back and let life carry you along. For now just live in the moment.