Thanks Karen, I certainly didn't take what you were doing as bashing my W. It was, just as you say, someone putting their own female perspective on the issue, which is why I posted it. Sometimes the response is that is BS from your W. Sometimes the response is that is BS from you Chrome. Sometimes there is a perspective I never envisioned. I think it should be pretty clear that I have a paltry understanding of how my W's mind works, and actually women in general. So many of my posts I just want insight into the female perspective. Of course, the best thing would be for my W and I to communicate, but that is the part of our M that is most sorely lacking.
I am at a loss right now as to how hard to push the issue of communication. It seems that whenever I do push it, she retreats even farther. There have been a few notable instances in which I got a glimpse, but as you all know, I have a problem with personalizing. So often I then have to fight my own retreating issues. It is getting better though over time.
I will try not to revert to Glob. I don't mean that I will stop posting or checking here by "4 month hiatus." I will just stop pushing my W to (1) finish HN/HN, (2) start reading PM, (3) start reading "Love Diet" (which I got for V-day if you remember), (4) have R convos a times (5) have sexual encounters. I will continue to pursue non-sexual affection, as I have been for awhile. When she stops nursing, I'll start trying to phase in those 5 things.
Thanks for your perpectives on the breast milk thing ladies. It is obvious that even with something like that, the types of responses are very individual. But I think I got a sample of how my W may be thinking about it.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
