I know I'm not someone that women drool over, but going from the elephant man to "hey, that fellow's not bad" is also a huge shift for me. I'm still a huge geek most of the time when I interact with women, so I'm sure I kill most attraction quickly anyway.

Stop this. IMMEDIATELY

Positive self talk. you know this.

ex. Im a huge(literally) geek. No wonder women are so attracted to me.

Weeping to sappy songs in the car is fine. I just dont want to know about it.
Please preface further posts with a BF warning so I know.

J/K. LMAO

back to sex talk
<pondering>

orgasm/oxytocin/nipples/lactation is all intertwined.

its not uncommom for women to O while breast feeding. (one woman had her child taken away by child services for talking about it though...idiots. there has to be some sort of reward system for something so self robbing.)

You are a good lover. ( I can hear the snide remarks and guffaws about how I know from here.... save it... )

We allready know about your W's breast sensitivity. (either that or you are such a phenomenal lover that I need to take classes on breast massage/kissing from you. lol)

so when you and your W have sex, or she O's its going to cause all these confusing associations. As a HIGHLY sexual yet repressed female she is going to want to prevent that. She may even judge and condemn herself for it. even assume you know whats going on in her head and assume you are judging and condemning too.

What to do.
First Its not about you.
Dont personalize. a negative reaction will reinforce her thought that you are condeming her.

Ignore her self recriminating attempts at self denial as far as they apply to you. Its not about you.
oh I said that already.

second ..figure out some ways to baby step her out of her repression. OT gave you some good general suggestions.

Me? I would laugh. Say Wow. thats awesome. Im so jealous. how big of an O do you need to hit the ceiling?
tell her I need cream for my coffee. come here so I can finger bang you. etc.
Buts that me.

Now you know why some lactating women are so 'touched out'. they are getting a regular flood of ocytocin and prolactin.
Its normal. Let her know, you think its normal.

BTW, I only differed with you on the one topic. I enjoy your comments on the biology. Im no professor, academic or researcher, so you dont have to reference me.
I still disagree with you on the unqualifiable topic. Your response was in proper debate form, but so meandering and convoluted from perspective to perspective that I had to read it several times just to figure out what you were saying. I want to continue just on principal. However Im tired, my face hurts and and I have more threads to read.
So.
Im right. your wrong.
but I still like you
he he he ha ow that hurts.