Hi Calm, How are you doing? I think your GAL strategies are great - how are they coming along? I can tell you one thing, from hard earned experience over the past 5 months:
Quote: Although I start to wonder, if I GAL too much, what about spending time with W?
You do not need to worry about this. The more you try to make sure you are available, the less appealing (and more pursuing) you seem. Be friendly, kind, open when you see W. But keep yourself very very occupied with other activities as much as possible. If your W becomes interested in where you are and what you are doing, and wants to spend more time with you, well THEN you can make yourself a little more available (but not all the time). Also important, keep being a great dad, and keep that impression in your W's mind. Keep looking good, keeping being desirable. But be a little mysterious, as soon as you can muster it.
Remember that OM is not the problem. he is only a symptom of the fact that your M was not well. You may be able to make your M well again. But first, you need to become totally 100% responsible for taking good care of you. The rest will come later. Sometimes MUCH later. But that's OK. It also takes a while for us to get good at detaching. Until then, we're not really ready for them to notice us anyway.
Rooting for you! Keep slogging through DR. I read it all the time, used my highlighter. You'll love that book some day, I promise
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
