Mike, JJ is right. Chill out and get away for a day or so if necessary. Things take time to change. It will be your changed reactions that will ultimately facilitae change in how your W deals with you.
It's been almost a month since there has been any sex in my house. Alot of illness, exhaustion, a W with a reduced libido and various other issues have made it so. Do I recognize it? Yes! Am I planning to do something about it? yes! Do I allow myself to obsess about it trying to find the hidden meaning? No! Not any more. W and I hold hands alot now. She gives lots of little signs of affection that I never noticed before. As I posted on another thread, it's the balance of things that has shifted.
Try to focus on ways to reduce your stress and W's stress. This is something worthy to think about. If your like me, succeeding at making her smile will help reduce your stress and anxiety. Try it to see if it works. Don't lose sight of the fact that this reconcilliation thing is tough on W as well as you. What can you do to make it easier?
