HEY JEN, Here's the latest, the W and I had a conversation sunday night in which she basically said that she thinks that our relationship really has a shot but she at that moment was not ready for us to move back together because of the communication diffculties we are having. These difficulties were obvious right then as we spoke. My feeling was that the mainly difficulty was due to the anxiety created by the previously planned move-in and completion of household projects, etc. related too the move. Things got a little heated. I promptly but politely excused myself for taking a more aggressive posture, explained very briefly that i had to readdress being able to detach a little and not take the conversations so personally and excused myself. Then called her back from the car and basically told her that from this point on she had to make the moves concerning putting this back together and unless she did this our marriage was over because i was tired and i meant it and was ready for the consequences. the following day i got several phone calls from my W, none of which i answered until she caught me at the store. She basically asked me how did I feel the day after. I stayed a little dim through the entire conversation (she was basically expressing her fears attached with the move) and when asked for some feed back I stated that there is really nothing else to talk about we had talked about it all. then she continued stating the pro's of the move and after a long list of pro's and talk about her willingness she said that she was willing to give this thing a try. I said excuse me what did you say, she said "you can move back in" I asked her when she said "today if you like", I told her that I'd like to sleep on it. we said a couple of more things and ended the conversation. she called the next day and asked if after sleeping on it did i still want to move in. and after a long pause i said yes. She said "don't say this and then change your mind on me." So she has told the children that my daughter and i are moving back in we have been talking about bills, chore division, school, nights out, etc. I have started to pack and plan on moving in during the holiday weekend. I am still being very cautious with my feelings and definitely have not moved outside my normal routine yet. Funny thing though, the communication thing seemed to clear right up and we are talking more and it feels ok. My W asked me yesterday how did i feel knowing i was on the way home the answer was "more relaxed" as I begin to believe it more my feelings of happiness are increasing and my anxietys are lessening. 8-31-01 will be 1 year of separation. Well, whadda ya think!
