HEY EVERYONE, just checking in, not much going on. The W and have been doing ok up until maybe a week or two ago at which point communications have become a strained. We end up in these circular conversations. I thought I had broken myself of and learned how not to escalate these types of situations. I see there is a danger of becoming too comfortable, it makes it easier to slip back into old habits. I guess one positive note is that behind these W doesn't shut down and usually remains on a seemingly pretty even keel. I guess this equates to her giving this thing a shot. However, I do understand too many of these incidents is certain death for a relationship, any relationship. I know i really need to start catching her doing things right and making a big deal of it, one-because I need to be more positive and two- because she preceives the most innocuous things to be put downs. I periodically struggle with trust issues concerning her indescretions but they come and go. She had done an individual session and i told her the other night that we definitely need to go back to couples. Well, the last thing is that upon our last discussion about moving back together about a month or more ago I kinda reversed gears because i felt we were'nt ready. She said that she felt it would be practical for me to move back in just before school started which is next week for my youngest and the week after that for my oldest. The subject hasn't come up. I feel that i shouldn't mention it and should maybe even go a little dim. please provide me with your feed back. I need the benefit of your experience,strength, and hopes. mike g
