JJ,
Yes I have offered to help and this was one of the projects she planned for us to do. Once again when I even looked like I was even thinking about doing something it became a catalyst for relapse.
I am considering giving her the key back. I did ask her if she wanted me to give it back before she left and she sad no. I don't know why but I am unusually emotional these last few days. I'm thinking giving her the key back may relieve some pressure. through this long separation process i had learned not to get too caught up in the goings on. Maybe I'm more tired than I think with the extermely hot weather and all. I have been having some pretty crazy thoughts.