Hey, Mike, just had a thought about your situation. Sounds like there's a lot of importance revolving around your W getting the house fixed up. Have you offered to help her with this, or would this be a taboo subject? Is this a reason to her, or an excuse? If you could work this out to happen, it could be a good way for the two of you to bond a little more. As Kent says, you need to be careful about doing too many things FOR her, however, this could be something you do WITH her. Something to draw the 2 of you a little closer together. NO OR TALKS WHILE YOU'RE WORKING TOGETHER, OR SETTING TIME FRAMES OF A MOVE-IN DATE!!
My W and I spent a lot of time working together out in the yard, and it really helped us along. Good quality time together, and it helped us get to know each other a little better, share in some common goals.
Just a little something to think about.
JJ
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