Hey, Mike, sorry you feel so crappy, it does get a bit overwhelming at times. I don't know if I would throw in the towel just yet if I were you. A lot of positive things have happened to you lately, go back through your thread and take a recap.

I'm sure your W IS going through a lot of emotions herself right now. A lot of confusion. Looking at the big picture, and being a bit scared. Back way off, let her deal with her fears and emotions on her own.

I guess I must retire myself to do nothing in relation to the nuts and bolts of our reconciliation everything I do seems to trigger a relapse for her.

Looks like you found your answer right there. Remember that sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing. She DID say she loves you, even though she's not "in" love with you (gee, such an original statement. Anyone else ever heard THAT before?). She agreed that you ARE in a reconciliation process (key word there being "process", don't forget that!).

I would suggest for you to NOT throw in the towel just yet. Give her LOTS of space, for her AND for you. When you're feeling this frustrated, it's pretty easy to say and do things that will cause a lot of damage. It's very easy and very tempting to try to rush things at this point. Be the calm, cool, together Mike we've all grown to know and to admire!!

Hang in there, buddy. Remember that reconciliation is a process, not an event. Think of your long term goals, and appreciate how far you've come lately.


JJ

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