THANKS VIOLET, I guess with summer here everybody is being outdoors a lot, including me. Things seem to be progressing slowly but surely. I am dealing with my trust issues and am trying to be very careful not to overstep my bounds, however, I have made it clear that the accountability of my W's time maybe one of the most important factors in helping me to regain trust in this relationship. I sometimes wonder whether there are any residual aquaintances still hanging around. I have asked, but how can ya ever be sure after finding out about multiple affairs. We have been spending more time together and she has given me the key and the code to the alarm system. I believe she and I both are getting a little more comfortable with being together again. She says she is in for the long haul but I happen to know that the psych/emotional issues she has are real and may intervene at any moment that is why counseling is very important. She insist that we go to couples counseling which we had already been involved in for about 7 or 8 months, she was asked directly was she involved in an affair, she lied all the way through it. I am not opposed to couples counseling but I do feel that she should seek individual counseling before we go another foot. I love my W dearly and want this to go right. I would appreciate any feed back from any of you who have experienced this stage of reconciliation.
