I felt "second rate" to XW in the kids' eyes several times. It's not true, though. Keep showing your kids that you love them, no matter what H does or doesn't do. It'll get through to them, even if they're afraid to lose his love by admitting/demonstrating love for you.
His actions will breed uncertainty in them. You can just keep being consistently loving, not bad mouthing him. The kids will notice, in time.
Thanks,
Joe
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