hey guys, don't have much time, so in a nut shell; W and I have had several talks about reconciliation she says she is willing to do this and wants to start planning the nuts and bolts. when asked why, she enumerates very sound reasons. I think we both are experiencing some anxiety concerning this. She has given me a key to the house (which I am considering giving back and/or definitely not using because she stated she wanted to give it to me when she finished with the house (she started almost a year ago)- ala grand welcome home- but gave it to me because i mentioned it.) and asked me when did I figure to move back in. Yesterday we ended up having this conversation about her having " sexual attraction problems" when it comes to me and although she has admitted that it has not always been that way, it is something that has resurfaced periodically throughout the relationship. She states that the act itself is pleasurable but getting there is the issue. In all fairness, she did say she is willing to work on this and I am over weight and working on that (I have lost 28 pounds.) My wife has a mean streak and sometimes i feel she does things like this on purpose. I have perceived that she has a kick a person when they're down type mentality and is either not aware of it or in denial, she really hurt my feelings. In delicate situations wording is everything and I resisted the temptation to slice back because my heart and my belief won't allow me to knowingly and purposefully hurt people, ESPECIALLY SOMEONE I LOVE. I am wondering is or will this issue become the set up for an adulterous affair down the line. I am very affectionate ( like hugging, touching and have a very active libido ). should I go ahead in prayer and good faith and try to make the best out of this situation, should I cut my losses and just bail out of the marriage right now. I do love my wife and kids tremendously I'm a little confused and frightened and need your input.
[This message has been edited by MIKEG (edited 07-02-2001).]
