(Chrome) Do you realize that you are taking a condescending tone in your posts complaining about condescending tones?
No, but I'm a fairly fallible person so if I'm doing that it wouldn't be a shock. I'm interested in knowing why you think so but folks seem to be finding this deal a bit tedious. Please email me: eggman@iname.com if you have the time.
(F4W) I now return you to regularly scheduled Death Match XXX.
Were the previous XIX cuter than me?
(Cobra) I recall you were Phase3 not long ago...
Indeed. The great majority of my posts were under the screen name Burgbud but I discovered my STBXW was reading the board so I changed it. Now that it's no longer an issue, I've changed it back.
Who else do you speak to personally?
I've met eight other DB'ers besides Heather and OSB. The only other one I'd guess you might be familiar with is Joe (Koshka). There are four others I email on varying bases of regularity. I posted in a college football group for a long time, as well, and have met four or five guys from there in real life. I've yet to have had an experience that was even remotely disagreeable or disappointing.
This seems rather strange to me (yeah, that’s a condescending remark if you want to take it that way)….
Something seems strange to you. That's just how you feel or what you think. I don't see how that's condescending. FWIW, I don't remember any comments of yours that I've thought were condescending. I think you draw too many conclusions from not enough information and it seems strange to me how you sometimes discuss your analysis of somebody in their thread with a third party as if the person being discussed wasn't even there. But that's just how *I* feel and what I think.
So for me to say I could see exactly what Heather and Mojo needed is not so much a stretch.
Then apparently we're just going to disagree about that.
What I don’t understand is why this bothers you so much? ...I am thinking the bigger part or your issue is within you (are you going to say THAT is a condescending remark?)
No, I'm not, and I can't think of anything else I can do to get my issue out from within me and into the big, wide world, so perhaps we're just going to disagree about that as well.
Does everything need to be wrapped in compliments and self esteem boosting remarks for it not to be threatening?
Nope.
Just what does it take for you NOT to feel someone is being condescending to you?
Direct communication without insults, sarcasm or fireworks to "get your attention" is what it takes for me to feel someone isn't being condescending.
For that matter, why would you bother to make contact with someone via phone instead of posting advice on the board for others to use too?
Because many (most?) people, myself included, are inclined to talk more openly in a private conversation than when their words are being publicly recorded, and because I enjoy discussing interesting topics with interesting people that have nothing to do with the purpose of this board.
If you have more information about someone because of those phone calls, why not share it?
Because I trust people to make public any information about themselves they want made public and I don't feel it's my place to reveal things told to me during a private conversation in a public forum. To me, that's common courtesy.
Something still smells fishy to me.
So not only can you deduce exactly what a relationship needs from internet postings, you can detect my aroma as well? Remember, dude: with great power comes great responsibility.
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