Am I Creating a SSM Part IV

[Burgbud]

But what I DO want is to make my point and be heard. Once I see that someone really understands what I'm saying and gives my POV some credibility, then I lose interest in whether or not they take the advice.

So here's my honest, not rhetorical question for you: why is it so important to you that others understand what you're saying and give your POV some credibility that you're willing to become insulting?

As you may well have gleaned by now, that's a big issue for me as well. Everybody wants to be understood but I seem to have a strong need for assurance that my ideas are heard and considered. In my case, I believe that reflects a desire for some semblance of control...if people won't even listen to me, then I don't have much control, do I? But in fact, I don't control whether others listen to me or whether they don't, so I try to remember a maxim I've seen floating around various places, "if you've said it once, you've been heard".

Often, I'm spectacularly unsuccessful.


This probably comes from 28 years of writing grant proposals...

You have my deepest sympathy and appreciation.