Am I Creating a SSM Part IV

[Burgbud]

Heather seems fine. She seems able to say what she needs to say here.

I agree. It's very apparent.


I have found the folks on this board to be a great source of support, the straight shooters do so with a great deal of love and compassion.

I see a lot of disrespect passed off as "straight shooting" and not just in this thread. I'm not against difficult or unflattering information being passed on to Heather or me or anybody. If, however, a point can't be made without demeaning the recipient, that seems like a "plank in my eye/sty in yours" situation.

It's always intrigued me how people who love to hold a mirror up to others, point out dodges and deflections, and always "shoot straight" are so resistant to looking into their own style of communication in hopes of becoming more effective. You get the same dodges (not just here but everywhere)..."I don't blow smoke", "I tell it like it is", "I don't sugarcoat anything just to make people happy"...as if it's impossible to hold others accountable and be civil at the same time. It's not impossible; it's imperative.