Am I Creating a SSM Part IV

[Burgbud]

What’s up with this?

I agree that it is up to Heather to decide what she wants, but simply throwing out a suggestion, then accepting the fact that she turns it down may or may not be the responsible thing to do.

First, if you don't see a distinction between "simply throwing out a suggestion" and
"Heather, I'm callin' you on this: 100 percent crap! And not even good quality crap at that! Just listen to yourself! Geez.... " then we may not have enough common ground for a discussion.

Second, what's your alternative to accepting the fact that she may turn down somebody's suggestion? Are you really able to avoid that somehow?


I for one do not agree that it is best to let someone run through the gamut of life’s experiences first hand,

Nobody "let's" Heather or me or anybody other than themselves run the gamut of life's experiences, whether it's best or not. It's interesting to me that you believe we're all adolescents of varying stages, yet you also believe you know what's best for people.


...but why hold back on knowledge that may be useful to someone just because you do not want to be “pushy.

False dichotomy. Nothing prevents anybody from sharing knowledge that may be useful without being pushy. Since people generally resist knowledge that's shared in a pushy manner, if one's goal is to be genuinely helpful it seems best to avoid pushiness. If the goal is to express frustration and exasperation then the helpfulness factor is going to be mitigated.

If Heather expressed a suggestion to her H in the manner of the post in question, would you tell her she was on the right track? If not, why is it fine for Lil but not for Heather?