I agree with both of you. I also think W came into the church cus she found you there. I also think she is trying to reel you back in. I still think she needs time to do things on her own. I would not jump back on the phone at this point either. I would still be veeery dim on her.
I think she will get real scared if she sees you moving further away from her. Time to shake her up a bit. Keep in mind she had at least 2 affairs. This is not the actions of a caring, committed spouse. She has some work of her own to do. Don't releive her of this responsibility.
It looks like the distancing works for you Mike. Now develop different techniques using this dynamic. When ya find a tool that works well and ya get used to using it, ya begin to figure out other ways to apply it.
Something else in your post stinks like a skunk and I figured out what it is. ******************************************** She also said that she knew I have the capability of forgiving her but would i ever forget. ********************************************
How does she know that you can forgive her. I'll bet your not even that sure. This comment was presumptious on her part and it looks like another attempt to control your behavior. Don't let my words pull you down. Think about them from two aspects.
1. W surfs this board and is reading your stuff. It would explain the forgiveness comment.
2. She is trying to reel you back into more of the same old situation as she likes eating cake.
Kent
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