Mike! Believe it or not your discovery can have a positive effect.Affairs lose there appeal,when there is no longer secrecy.You were right to confront W w evidence.Now, drop it and "go dark" as Kent as suggested. I don't think your W wants a D. If you leave all the moves to her,she will do nothing. At least you have an explanantion for her inability to resolve things in your marriage.She has "hit the wall" now..let's see what happens. Come here for support,this behavior is typical of MLCer's.Stay strong,this is NOT about you ,your W has PROBLEMS!!! Take care of yourself, Jenny
