Well the cat's finally out the bag and as i suspected my wife was having an or should i say 2 affairs before and sometime during our separation. I was finishing up fixing the computer she swapped out for the one at the store and as i was saving files i needed for the store ( this was the original business computer) I opened a file that was just labeled with some letters not knowing what it was i opened it and it was a diary of sorts that clearly listed that she had been with 2 men since our marriage and separation. She called right after i read this and told me my daughters grades were there. I confronted her when i got there i told her that i was saddened and hurt. which lead to a conversation that i don't know if we should have had. the d word came up and at one point she said she would file, i told her to do what ever she thinks is best but if there was any hope of our relationship lasting that kind of behavior would not be tolerated, that as painful as it might be i would definitely want and take measures to have her out of my life as much as humanly possible and she wanted to talk more. I messed up by telling her that i was tired of things the way they are and that she was free to do as she pleased. She said she feels that i am pressuring her to make a decision (a diversionary tactic at best), "if i have to make a decision now i would have to opt for divorce".I said fine. then she got dramatic and said she would make a decision and let me know tomorrow,then she explained that she thinks i have asked her to make a decision on my moving back and i want a date to do so. WRONG! So things are up in the air again. I need your experience,strength, and hope. We did have a little further dialogue and it was all very civil. mike g
[This message has been edited by MIKEG (edited 06-19-2001).]
