Mike, Don't go south on us now buddy. I think Dobson's book is good advice for those in the middle of flaunting an affair at their spouse or those who just can't go on anymore. Decide if you fit the bill. If you think you do, take a vacation and think about it some more. His approach is the LRT of LRT's. After you make that threat, there is no turning back.
Get away and try to get a grip on your emotions. What's the hurry. Let some of the crap around the house go to hell for a while and let W deal with it.
You admit that the dim act may be having some positive affect yet you seem to be in a hurry. Was up with dat? If you beleive she is stringing you along, start cutting back on what you do for her and how much you are around. Start taking the kids on outings without inviting W. Do something, anything to show her you are moving forward with your life and distancing yourself from her.
i gotta tell you. The last couple of days my W has been snoopin some herself. She questioned my reduced pressure on her for sex and noticed that I opened an MSN account(snoop proof). She also deleted her personal yahoo account (again snoop proof) account at the same time. Last night she started prying a bit. I gotta admit it feels kinda good. I don't think she believes me when I say I'll never leave her or dishonor my vows. I think she may be worried.
What I'm trying to say is start playing the pursuer/distancer dynamic a little more. Try various distancing techniques to see which ones have a positive affect.
You did not seem to be in LRT mode until the pajama incident. Let it go and move forward with the process. What better do you have to do?
