I once told my H that birthdays and our anniversary are the 2 dates that I would like for him to remember (and since then, the boys' birthdays as well) and although one year I go an electric griddle and a work out outfit....(?)
So far he has not let one pass. Have not faced a birthday yet (his or mine) I have to admit I did not want ANY part of our anniversary this year-I couldn't even bring myself to say the words "Happy Anniversary" to him on that day-I just mumbled a "you too" or something. I was very angry with him and just didn't feel married anymore-why celebrate such a lie? I used to think it was the happiest day of my life (save the birth of my boys) but now it was all a lie. I even sort of resented his mushy-I love you forever-card....like, sure, uh-huh...not buying it.
Your wife is angry, she called you to bitch at you-on your birthday-which trust me she has NOT forgotten about. I think she just wanted to 'get you goin' know what I mean? To punish you. Good for you for not letting her see she got to you.
I am sure there is a fair amount of guilt she is feeling too-she tried to pick a fight with you to make herself feel better about feeling crappy. Maybe trying to shift the blame on you for her foul mood (?)
Anyway-I'm glad your buddy took you out. I agree with you that you should let it go and not bring it up to her because like I said-she darn well remembers and it will just cause more friction (now anyway) if you say something....and although it's sh*tty of her to blow it off like that, being the bigger person here and letting it go is the healthy thing to do.
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p.s. So...what's the craziest birthday gift anyone out there has ever gotten? I'm still cracking up over the electric griddle and work-out outfit...
'thanks honey-not only am I FAT but I can't COOK either!!!!'
