You asked about things to watch out for. One of the issues that comes up in piecing is resentment about the past betrayal. My H and I have come up with a pretty handy way of dealing with that - by referring to our former selves as our "ex-spouses". As in - "My ex-husband used to do Z, so that's why I got nervous" "Well, I'm NOT your ex-husband, I'm Y, so quit punishing me for his faults".
Sounds silly but it works to keep our focus on the fact that this is a NEW marriage, a NEW R, and we are NEW people by virtue of having been through the crucible.
Also - a word or two about OCD. I have a son with mild Tourette's (OCD, ADD and tics) and a daughter who had anorexia/bulimia with mild OCD. I don't know what treatment you've had, but there were two books I really liked: The Boy Who Wouldn't Stop Washing by Rappaport, and Brainlock by Schwartz. Your wife might better understand things if she read them too. Brainlock has a lot of good info on behavioral therapy. And my D's OCD symptoms responded to the high-dose Prozac she was taking for her bulimia. (And yes, there is a strong genetic link between the two.)
