You’re finding out what works and what doesn’t and learning from it – and that’s a good thing. That’s great that you had 2 or 3 weeks of joyful banter and loving conversations.
What will you do next time when you’re feeling needy? Something good for yourself, I hope. That will give W some time to be in her cave alone. Her being in the cave might not have anything to do with you, remember that. After you distance yourself for a bit, what can you do to draw her out?
W sounds really busy and has lots on her plate and it’s good that you recognize that. Maybe you could ask for small bits of her time and do something with her that’s fun or relaxing. For example, I’ve been asking H for 15 minutes of his time. I played some songs I like on a new CD for him and we held hands, I invited him out on the porch to have a beer and watch the sunset, I asked him for a 5-minute back rub and then I rubbed his for 10, we held hands and went for a walk. I stick to the 15 minutes and we laugh when the time’s up.
Your strategy about moving home sounds good. With finals over and W’s job at school winding down, she might need to catch her breath before she can focus on the move. You’re right to be patient!
