My advice: hire a cleaning service to clean your house once a week or every other week. Do not let housework break up your marriage. If you can afford a separate apt for yourself right now, then you can afford a cleaning service when you move back in with your W. Do not have the service clean kids' rooms if you want them to take responsibility for this themselves.
I have seen many marriages founder on the subject of housework and to my mind, it simply is not worth fighting over.
Franny
[This message has been edited by Franny (edited 06-04-2001).]
