Mike, ******************************************* So I kinda probed to find out what was going on with the "dead pan" and it caused friction. Then I started looping and she jumped right in, Damn, just like the old days. ******************************************* Well now you know that his approach does'nt work!
You also know that pursuit does not work.
So what are you going to try that does work?
I don't like it any better than you Mike, but the distance/pusuit dynamic is real in both our situations. It's time for you to accept it and start fine tuning your use of this knowledge.
Example: After your little slip up you would realize the mistake and say " Sorry hun, not sure what got into me" and then follow up with a " I need to leave", then leave her with a hug and her own thoughts. This is known as distancing.
I know you don't like it. I know you wanna go home. You could keep playing this game of pursuer forever without getting there.
Pursuit does not work. Also, what are you doing trying to drag her out of her cave. Don't you know what to expect from a cornered animal?
Don't let your intense desire to go home start guiding your moves.
