Thanks guys,I also went back and read DB again last night.It is really tough when you live in a small town and work across the street from each other.I know I also feel resentment because she still lives in the house that I mostly paid for while I live in an small apt.I asked her what would happen if I moved back home and she said she would move out,well this is one option that I may look at in the future.
Hey Kent good to see your around. My W asked when was i looking to move back in. I didn't feel comfortable setting a deadline, so to speak, because i know that she has told me repeatedly that it makes her uncomfortable, so i consider what she said a huge sacrifice. We did however, decide that we would start on making the necessary changes to the house in about two weeks when she completely finishes with school. Good news, eh !
Make sure you don't start doing tons of stuff for her. Give her lots of space when you get home. Let her pursue you.
Spend your early days at home focusing on the changes you have made. They are tougher to stay true to when you are around W all the time. Make sure you dedicate time to get out of the house alone every week to refuel, relax and disengage from the reconciliation process.
Kent, Thank you for the tip. I hope you don't mind but i will be leaning on you guys heavily during the upcoming period. I was standing in my place of dwelling yesterday and it is huge, roomy, comfortable, and quiet. Large screen tv with a surround sound home theater, great couchs, futon, leather recliner, with matching tapestries and all of a sudden i just wasn't in that big of a hurry to move back in with my wife. Is this normal?
Violet, Just what we need. A private KLA club for people in troubled R's. I think I would worry about what kind of Luv would be kept alive. Especially with the hot tub and some vino!
Violet maybe I will open one in kansas since we don't drink vino only beer.One thing for sure we would all know we were with good people.We would have to put up a sign that said No Aliens Allowed!
