L & KENT, thank you both for your feedback. L, My W and I were friends and business partners for almost 2 years before we became romantically involved. The tactic and issue of going dim and dark at this stage came as a result of me protecting me and my feelings. I suffer incredible sadness when i have to leave a wonderful evening and night with my wife and the kids. Everything is so harmonius i get confused about why we are still apart. the kids continually express their desire to have me and my daugther back home. sometimes it hurts just to ring the doorbell of the place you have known to be and is spiritually your home. I do not advocate moving back in at this moment. I do understand that it is a process, not an event. I would just like for us to make some more definite and / or defined moves in that direction. She did not change the locks until i had been gone for about three months and i never violated her space. I would feel real comfortable with having a key, or starting the work in the house that needs to be done to accomodate the necessary changes (my Wife has turned my daughters room into a study). Yes, we have discussed this and her reply "I understand how you feel" or " I don't feel comfortable with that" =s frustration on my part. I have been patient and I will try to continue with youse guys sharing your experience, strength, and hopes, with me. thank you Mike g
