I was thinking about something when Kent asked you why you are not at home yet, your reply was because your wife wants it happen naturally, fine, you agree that you cannot push her here and that it seems when you go dim/dark she seems to move faster.
I was wondering how long you 'courted' before you were married? I'm not trying to put a time constraint on this, but I'm guessing it was longer than 2-3 months.
I know it is hard, but patience and perserverance are going to be your strongest allies for now.
If she asks you to stay-stay. And sometimes it is ok to initiate - or let her initiate - an OR talk and tell her how you feel about the control issues, and like Heidi (Saturnh) said-try and place yourself in her place-and be cool-my H is amazed that I actually CAN be rational about my feelings!!
I keep repeating to myself 'what would I want from him if our roles were reversed?'
It has helped me/us.
Don't give up, be strong, you're on the right path!
