hey Kent, according to my W, the reason we are not living together yet is because "she feels confined and unnatural using the tools of setting goals and benchmarks we learned in counseling. She just "wants it to happen naturally." (this is a quote) "I'm waiting for the piano to fall on my head." She says she wants to be married and loves me but wants to complete this process she's involved in but does'nt quite know what the process is, she can only describe it as growing up. So after spending the night on a very regular basis and daily close contact for about 2 months i began to get frustrated. we discussed it a couple of times continued the contact for another month and rather than go back into the frustration conversation i started going dim then dark. At first, she flat out paniced, calling every 5 minutes asking me what's wrong, assuming that i had totally given up. I stayed kind but less talkative. When i decided to call her she was very happy to hear from me and without prompting starting talking about hardcore plans to move back in. Like what am i bringing and changes WE need to make to the house. The minute the frequency of contact went back up she went back to her i'm not sure, happen naturally, piano on the head scenario. So you can probably see why i would be confused about this freqency of contact thing. I hope i answered your question. I looking forward to hearing from you. mike
