Wow Mike! It sounds like communication, and your wife's committment have significantly improved rather quickly? If so it is only natural that she would fall back into ambivolence. Now is your chance to solidify the wonderful changes you've made. Frankly, I can still get into a power struggle with my h and be in utter denial about it. It seems to make sense at the time. But, I'm getting better . When I first found this site I thought it would be impossible to follow the suggestions. Now I see the path so it's right foot, left foot and I'm getting more confident with the inevitable backslides coming less often. So here we go all together now: I will center, relax, and reach calmly and confidently for the patience I need for myself and my spouse, I know that I will fall down and so will my spouse, when this hapens, I will lovingly distance the bad stuff and without any perfectionistic stress relax and let kindness prevail for both of us.