Hey Mike..you are right to post here and try to calm down.You hit the nail on the head...classic distancer/pursurer stuff.
You need to back off as you can see how very well that works.It's like going fishing and you just about had her reeled in and you jerked the line.In other words you scared her off. I know you are angry and you have every right to feel hurt and disappointed,but keep those feelings away from her.
She loves and obviously wants you,but she continues to be ambivelant and you must realize this.Please don't personalize her insecurity..it is NOT about you,it is about HER.There is nothing rational in her behavior so don't draw any conclusions..just back off,be sweet,but mysterious and she'll come running again.However,let her be the one to finally "seal the deal"..OK.
You are doing great...you haven't lost much footing...just get right back to using "what's been working"...read the DB book again and take a deep breath! Jenny Baker
