WELL GANG IT'S BEEN A MINUTE SO LET RECAP SHALL WE ? My wife and I are no longer talking about divorce, things have been relatively good I have been spending the night on a pretty regular basis. She readily refers to herself as my wife (all improvements). Wife states she is uncomfortable with setting goals and benchmarks as we learned in counseling. Says it makes her feel confined she just wants us to get back together naturally. OK, i get tired of feeling strung along so i go dark after a dispute about her going on vacation and not spending the week with the kids. She panics call every 5 minutes for days. Says she thinks i'm with another woman and begs me to spend the night every night i decline and honestly tell her that it has produced feelings in me every since my daughter visited me a my parents house and said this is nanny's house (my Mom), we live in mommy's house, so daddy you don't have a house do you? I feel that my wife is really exercising her control issues. During my dark stage she brings up the subject of moving back in, and starts making plans. We decided it's time to talk i go by to pick up the kids as i do every sunday. the kids go outside, i ask her to take off her clothes and we're all over the floor (first time in months) later i explain my feelings concerning going dark tell her that i love her and the kids. now it's seems she is secure and the moving back in talks have been suspended (classic pursuer - distancer relationship?) just yesterday when asked does she or dose'nt she want us to move back together all of the sudden she's in the middle again. i am tired please help me. Is it or is it not going to happen. i am considering going dark again and staying there until she cries uncle or forget it. as you can see i need a steady hand to talk me down. I am experiencing anger also. HELP!
