Congratulations on your success! You have made positive steps toward complete reconciliation.However,as you have so aptly pointed out,you must continue to use DB techniques.Keep at it it works.
The key issue is symbolic of a power struggle..a control issue.When you are in a tug of war over something,just drop the rope and watch what happens. The real gains are in the fact that your wife wants you back at home,albeit on a gradual basis.
Don't ask for the key...forget about it!It's only a small piece of metal that opens a physical lock.Mike,what you are working on is so much more important.It's the key to her heart and it sounds like she is offering it to you.
Make the time you do spend with her count and when you move back to your place make her miss you,by lovingly distancing.
In my case the period of fragile but,"budding" togetherness lasted about 6-8 months,before my H finally declared a commitment to our marriage.It had to happen when he was ready and compelled to pledge his love to me without any insistance on my part.
Mike,someone gave me this advice when I was in circumstances similar to yours:"It's like catching a fish.Don't try to reel him in too soon"! I assure you I had to pull back and "cast my line" several times,before I got the hang of it!
You are doing a great job of saving your marriage....you will be a sucess story soon.
Jenny
[This message has been edited by 17baker445 (edited 03-18-2001).]
