HEY GANG, This is my first post in this forum. Prior to this I was posting in the 180 forum. since then things have changed considerably. My W and I agree that Divorce is no longer an option. I am spending so much time with her and my family i am wondering why i don't have keys. Yet I am very careful not to make it an issue. We have discussed it a few times and she says she doesn't know what the hold up is, she doesn't know whether shes confused or stubborn. She asks me to stay over two to three nights per week. Last night she brought up the subject and talked about about her feelings surrounding the issue of us living together and offered a tenative solution which has to do with me staying with her for a week then at my place for a week, staying with her for two weeks and then at my place two weeks, etc. She made it very clear that this was not a permenant nor the best solution but a starting place. Then she talked about space and solitude in relation to us moving back together. I basically told her that i understood because i have some of the same feelings after living separated for 7 months. I also said these are some of the challeges of married life and we are probably not the only couple that goes through this. I feel that i may benefit from some guidance and suggestions from those of you who may have experienced this stage of reconciliation. I just finished reading "Should I stay or should I Go" I didn't get a whole lot out of it probably because of the stage of our separation. I am so close i would hate to blow it now. Peace!
