Bit of a tough day for me. Saw my psychiatrist last Wed. He essentially told my H that he probably would be wise to back off from his new female friend. After the session asked my H to talk to me about the session after a few days. He had a grueling work schedule for the weekend so I was extra gentle, patient and kind. Yesterday I started having more bad memories crop up and started feeling crappy that here a week later he hasn't addressed the session. This morning I was really feeling plagued. Asked him to talk to me about the session and related issues again. I have found that when he follows up on agreements like this things go well. When he forgets I start hurting again. Generally, talking helps us. Writing helps even more so maybe we could address it this way.
As my H is committed to working things out, our relationship seems to be more about creating a mutually satisfying full partnership. BELIEVE ME, I am tremendously grateful that we are in this wonderful phase and not still struggling to establish firm committment. Still there are difficulties to resolve. Guess this is just par for marriage and sure makes sense that you'd be extra concerned about getting it right after what we've been through. What do you think folks?
