For me it has seemed like we were building our marriage for the first time. It feels like uncharted waters and it would help so much to have support and understanding from others who've been here and done this. That's why I'm hoping that the "Piecing Our Marriage Back Together" topic becomes very active.
Now that my H is being more honest, (he admits that he is still not completely honest) I know better who he really is as a person. He was a fantasy to me before. Now that he is more genuine I find myself disappointed on the one hand, because he is not all I thought he was (this is hard to admit), but on the other hand our relationship feels so much more authentic that it fills me with hope. Holding these types of conflicting feelings at the same time (there have been many very strong conflicting feelings on this journey) has been quite difficult.
My H has made very important changes. I am very proud of him for these changes. It is as though he's been able to do what he wasn't able to do in our relationship before.
Wish I could see my part in it all better! See some and will keep working on it.
ALTL
[This message has been edited by alottolearn (edited 03-26-2001).]
