Once I found out about the EA Jan of 00, I started seeing a therapist recomended through my insurance. Didn't know about this site/book/therapy type....etc. I was just lost.
I saw her for about 5 months (not every week-usually every second or third) or so-then H was coming home and I thought I would be OK after the initial period of adjustment-we did leave the door open, so to speak, and it was arranged that I could just call and go back (without the whole referral process through the insurance company again)...anyway, when the bomb dropped on 7 Nov and I had irrefutable proof of PA I called her to talk-needed someone to calm me down as I was not rational and going to grab my kids and run as far away from H and here as I could get. She said not to make any decisions in anger...anyway-after about 30 minutes I was calmed down enough to accept a phone call from H-I was at work-and kept hanging up on him on the other line.....
I did not make arrangements to start seeing her again at that time. After I had it out with H later that day (and through that night and into the next day) he suggested we give her a call and start going together. I was really surprised by this.
Anyway, we have been to 7 sessions so far-usually every other or every third week, and plan to continue going for a couple more-it's the only time H really opens up and talks about his feelings. Like I've said before, I think there is more to him, more he has not let out.
I have spoken to her about this site and Michele's book, she has read it (and a few others), keeps up with a lot of current teachings, believes in solution based therapy-like she says, whatever works and is right for YOU as a couple is what you should do-because eventually our goal is to "fire her" (her words!) and do all this on our own....anyway, she's great-has helped me a lot-to see myself the way my H does...
I am waiting still tho for H to let it all out-or at least more than he is...he's still holding back (he admits this and C says she sees it too)
anyway-quittin time, gotta go get boys...do the mom thing.
